Akko wrote:
malmon wrote:
yumiyacchi wrote:
Socializing irl, it all goes down from there
Yeah, that's the part I really suck at though. I barely ever come in to contact with any girls, and I don't ever really go out to bars or clubs or places like that, since I can't drink :/
I'm considering trying out the online route.
Well wait till your older :s
I can't imagine the chances getting any better as I get older.
Backlash wrote:
Honestly, best advice I can give is to learn to love yourself before loving someone else. When people say "be confident", what they really mean is "put yourself in a state that lets you walk away from this unscathed if things don't pan out." The more you base your feelings upon people who might be unstable or just plain dislike you, the worse you're gonna feel.
Maybe you're right, but let's face it, I'm 20 years old, and I've never been in any relationship whatsoever - it just gets harder and harder to love myself when there's just this constant feeling of something being very wrong with me. That being said, I don't want a girlfriend just for the sake of having one, it's just that it's getting to the point where I would really like to have someone who understands me, thinks on my wavelength, someone to love, yanno?
put yourself in a state that lets you walk away from this unscathed if things don't pan out.
Well, that really depends on what the thing that doesn't pan out is. In this context, I guess it would be about actually asking a girl out. Well, how on earth does someone like me even put themselves in such a position? I get lightheaded as soon as I even start thinking about asking a girl out... it's just gotten to the point where I don't know what I'm gonna do with myself anymore, or if I'm ever going to experience love.
Sorry for making such a sappy (and probably downright desperate) thread, but I just don't know what to think or do anymore. Thanks for your responses, though.
