If so, why? (I know most people here probably are, so perhaps a better question would be who isn't a shut-in?)

I suppose I would. I would say it's mostly out of convenience. All of my friends meet up at my place so aside from college and family affairs I don't actually have much of a reason to go out.

I spend a lot of time on the computer and watching anime, but I also work and hang out with my friends and girlfriend a lot too. Maybe like half shut-in and half nonshut-in. I only talk to like 3 people outside of the internet though.

I have a friend living nearby who I talk to on a nearly daily basis but beyond that I don't really interact with people in real life and I hardly ever leave the house. A working internet connection seems to suit all my needs so I don't have any real drive to venture outdoors. That said I do get stir crazy from time to time.

Kind of. Most of my friends live in different states or countries, so we just play video games or watch anime together. I do have some friends that are local and I do go out with them every once an a while, but as an introvert I prefer to stay indoors and doing my own thing. Only real things I leave the house for regularly are college and family affairs.

Probably not. I have a job that I work 5 days a week and go into town to get snacks and manga once a week.

I mean, I work, but other than that and now pokemon go I'm a shutin.

Probably not. I go out pretty often just to hang out or eat dinner with my friends. I can't sit at home on the internet for days on end, it drives me nuts.

floattube wrote: girlfriend 100% not shut-in I'm very introverted, but I don't think I'd consider myself to be a shut in. Staying in doors for too long kinda just depresses me.

malmon73 wrote: floattube wrote: girlfriend 100% not shut-in Well, I tried.

No, I need to work so I can continue to sustain myself with ice cream.

Would you consider yourself to be a shut-in?

Backlash

Yeah, I'm a shut-in. By this point, I really don't care anymore. In fact, I'd be perfectly happy living the rest of my life indoors, if only I had someone to spend my days with.

I've had migraines almost daily for the past four weeks. Painful ones, like having your head caught in an industrial press. They can be triggered by the tiniest things, and I need to be wary of even the breaths I take. But if I were home alone for the rest of my life, maybe then I could finally escape from this hell.

My family kinda forgets about me these days, but that's okay. I miss talking to the people I actually love. It's just not fair to them. I could handle this pain if it didn't cloud my thoughts. But maybe tomorrow I'll finally find the clarity I've chased for so long.

I know that I'll be happy, someday...

malmon

What's happening tomorrow? :o

Indoors is comfy, but I dunno if I'd be happy not going outside. Maybe you'll change your mind once the migranes go away!

Yuu

Involuntary shut-in these days. I would like to go out with friends, but they're working night shift.
So I stayed at work working overtime. I guess I'll chill with myself at this point.

malmon

Yuu wrote:
Involuntary shut-in these days. I would like to go out with friends, but they're working night shift.
So I stayed at work working overtime. I guess I'll chill with myself at this point.

That sucks 🙁 are they warehouse staff or something?

Yuu

malmon wrote:
Yuu wrote:
Involuntary shut-in these days. I would like to go out with friends, but they're working night shift.
So I stayed at work working overtime. I guess I'll chill with myself at this point.

That sucks 🙁 are they warehouse staff or something?

They work at a 24/7 callcenter.

Worked there too once. Shit workplace. I now only work office hours as Database developer in the telecom industry. But yeah, hard to sync with those dudes 😃

Hopefully, I'll get more familiar with my current coworkers eventually to hang out outside work eventually. Only worked here for 5 months though.

malmon

Yuu wrote:
malmon wrote:
Yuu wrote:
Involuntary shut-in these days. I would like to go out with friends, but they're working night shift.
So I stayed at work working overtime. I guess I'll chill with myself at this point.

That sucks 🙁 are they warehouse staff or something?

They work at a 24/7 callcenter.

Worked there too once. Shit workplace. I now only work office hours as Database developer in the telecom industry. But yeah, hard to sync with those dudes 😃

Hopefully, I'll get more familiar with my current coworkers eventually to hang out outside work eventually. Only worked here for 5 months though.

Ah well, they'll probably quit the call centre job soon then 😛

My colleagues tend to like hanging out. Board games on monday evenings, pub on thursdays, and the occasional night out getting wasted, where the HR manager turns into a massive whore!

Yuu_

malmon Lol. Reporting back in 2 years later. No longer a shut in and I do have some very good friends now.

But on the topic at hand. Since I am gravedigging this thread 🙂 I used to be a legit shutin/neet during my days of university ₅ years ago. For a whole year. Almost never went out, only to the store 5 minutes before closing time to get food. Or order takeout. Never went to school, never had any friends.

Weird times. I actually miss it sometimes when living the wage life these days. If it werent for the fact that I financed my neet lifestyle on accumulating student debt back then.

Backlash

malmon wrote:
What's happening tomorrow? :o

Indoors is comfy, but I dunno if I'd be happy not going outside. Maybe you'll change your mind once the migranes go away!

I'm sure... You're probably right, Mal-kun.

I suppose... what I really want is a sort of quiet "retirement" from life. I don't want to pursue any lofty goals or a demanding career - Hell, I'd be happy shuffling papers and pretending to work a dead-end job all day, if I could. But I want to spend time with the people I love. I'll write a novel, I'll fix my health, I'll learn Japanese, and I'll hold hands under cherry blossoms with all the people I love. And that includes you.

Doesn't that sound lovely, Maci?

Foolguy

I'm kind of split in the middle, not really a shut in, but definitely not an out there kind of guy.
I do what I want, and it usually doesn't involve other people.
So I go outside to skate around and shop and whatnot but unless a person really catches my attention, I usually don't try to engage and they end up forgotten.
And besides doing the things I like doing outside, I'm often in my personal quarters doing my thing.

Backlash wrote:
malmon wrote:
What's happening tomorrow? :o

Indoors is comfy, but I dunno if I'd be happy not going outside. Maybe you'll change your mind once the migranes go away!

I'm sure... You're probably right, Mal-kun.

I suppose... what I really want is a sort of quiet "retirement" from life. I don't want to pursue any lofty goals or a demanding career - Hell, I'd be happy shuffling papers and pretending to work a dead-end job all day, if I could. But I want to spend time with the people I love. I'll write a novel, I'll fix my health, I'll learn Japanese, and I'll hold hands under cherry blossoms with all the people I love. And that includes you.

Doesn't that sound lovely, Maci?

I kind of relate to the whole "retirement" thing, as sometimes, things seem to add up to nothing, especially with classes where you learn, and then one month later forget everything taught. Having a person to share things with does sound beautiful, as then you really get to collect the good times you try not to forget. Although I probably could life by myself for a long time without needing someone like that, the appeal of just you and them in that quiet life sounds heavenly.

malmon

Yuu_ That's good! I've kinda not spent very much time out these past couple of years, aside from work, and seeing friends a few times >_<

Yeah, working sucks, but I guess it's at least... arguably morally better than being a NEET lol

Backlash

As my involuntary holiday from work draws to a close, I find myself creating miniature skits in my mind of possible conversations I'll have at the office.

I'm not exactly a people-person... in spite of how much I like people. >~<

mnl

Backlash Haha, I can relate. I usually do this before telephone conversations, when calling someone I don't know personally (like making an appoint with a dentist or hair cutter).

Foolguy

Reporting in 2 years later. I am about the same as I was before. Although I live someone else now and I wish I had the same great roads I skated on back then. The sidewalks at my old place were great and the routes I could take were pretty diverse as well. Things have been the same for me the last while, but in these next few years is when I really make decisions that will determine my life. No pressure me. I wonder if it will shake up my life or not.

Backlash

Watching ToniKawa... This hurt more than it should have. ;~;

MR_M

I wish I could isolate myself more from people. I know it's played out at this point, but I really do struggle with anxiety and functioning day to day. I can feel the issue getting worse every year, I'm scared I'll have a nervous breakdown someday and lose everything I worked so hard to earn. Simple tasks most people don't have trouble with like phone calls or going grocery shopping are brutal events I dread dealing with. It gets particularly bad when I don't have any down time to unwind. Of course, I still have to do them, because I would suffer more if I didn't do the minimum to function in society.

Some people dream of retiring when they get old, I dream of being alone.

malmon

Minty I guess I can't really speak for everyone, but I personally really wouldn't recommend isolation. The loneliness would get too much >_<

mnl

Minty Sounds like something that's worth working through with a behavioural therapist, maybe? Especially if you feel the issue getting worse.

quintuplicate

malmon I like going outside and riding my bike.

MR_M

mnl I've tried that several times, therapy seems like a scam to me. Maybe it works for some people, but it doesn't do anything for me except empty my wallet. I'm at a point in life where I've just accepted this is how I am. The best I can hope for is to cope with my situation. \_( '~ ' )_/

malmon It's not all bad, it's just something I have to work around. I really enjoy staying home and doing a lot on my computer, I've even started to build my career around limiting direct contact with people. In a weird way, my problem has become a catalyst for how to go about living my life. I do have a small close-knit network of people I talk to and enjoy the company of from time to time. Even as isolated as I would like to be; I understand I can't completely cut-off all contact forever. Just wishful thinking.

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