Oblivion wrote:
SO my bestfriend fell in love with my crush and now i'm thinking what i should do as i want my bestfriend to be happy but i also love that girl and i even tried to let her go so my bestfriend could have a chance but i couldn't let her go so what do i do next? To be clear i fell in love first
Do not let go that easily, trust me. I do not know how good your realtionship with your bf is, but if it's actually good they won't mind - If your crush chooses you; In turn you should try to cope if they choose your bf. Inaction is death.
My experiences with that exact situation have traumatized me for years now, and I would not want anyone to repeat what I did - nothing. It cost me my friendship with my bf, two decent friendships and my nerve in all things romantic.Â
One more very serious piece of advice: do NOT think it granted that your friend has the same thoughts about letting his crush go for your sake. (also they might go for your next crush as well)
(FYI, my bf was a good friend of my crush, and was at the time infatuated with another, who did not return his feelings but wanted him as a friend, while she was actually into me, but had held herself back, since she knew I was into her friend, as she told me years later.
 My bf then turned his attentions to my crush and eventually raped her when they were out drinking. I didn't know until she told me after she asked me whether I liked her - to which I replied affirmatively. Well, she turned me down and made me promise I wouldn't talk to my then bf about it. Well I haven't to this day, years later - needless to say, I distanced myself from him over time. I still get sick when I see him.
In the end I still was hopelessly in love with my crestfallen crush and continued to pine after her even after being rejected as someone she wasn't into - until our A-levels, shortly past which she confessed to me that she had been going out with our 50-something school janitor, someone I had earlier thought a pedo, having seen him looking up the skirts of 13-yo girls - who had been there for here at the right moment.
Well, to summarise - I didn't do anything. I watched as two girls I truly liked got hurt and hurt while I couldn't do a thing for them, I trusted my then best friend not to act like a vile bastard and paid for it - over this I developed a hidden fear of close friendship and romance, and a habit of lying to hide certain parts of myself)