Poll: Is this acceptable?
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Date/Marriage with Underage

  • FukuchiChiisaia 01-22-2018, 05:06 AM
    In your opinion, is date or marriage with underage acceptable?

    I am fallen in love with 15 years old girl.
    Some people around me just "ah that's okay" while others be like "oh shit, are you pedo?"

    Also, if you see kind of me in reality, what will you do?
  • Loko 01-22-2018, 07:12 AM
    If I saw this type of situation in real life, I'd probably be kind of uncomfortable honestly. Sorry.
  • Heidegger 01-22-2018, 07:29 AM
    Underages are problems, remember, just her word it will be hold good. Depending on State, it's crime. buuuuut, you know :3
  • malmon 01-22-2018, 07:46 AM
    Dating and marriage are very different levels of a relationship.

    If she's interested in you as well, then I think dating is ok - only at most one year from being legal here anyway. Marriage is something that I think really requires a relationship to have matured a bit, so she'd certainly be old enough at that point.

    If I was in your position though, like @Lokorfi, I'd be rather uncomfortable about it, but if we both really liked each other, then I'd want to make it work - perhaps by not officially dating or something, i dunno.

    @Heidegger is right as well - I wouldn't go too far until she's legal.
  • GlassMoon 01-22-2018, 08:49 AM (Edited 01-22-2018, 08:50 AM)
    Just out of curiosity, what's the law on it in your country? I'd want to know that before offering an opinion.
  • LucianDreamer 01-22-2018, 09:26 AM (Edited 01-22-2018, 09:30 AM)
    In the United States, for most jurisdictions it is 18 unless you're in Nebraska (19) or Mississippi (21). Parental consent for children wanting early marriage can be as early as 16 to 17. No polygamy allowed here.

    I assume you're still in Indonesia, if I am correct, meaning as early as 16 for her and you are old enough with parental consent and judicial approval.

    If I am wrong, then I have a fallback detailed link in case.

    Oh, I do support child marriage, but the dating part is going to take some big hurdles and varies by individual.

  • Backlash 01-22-2018, 10:44 AM
    Weeew lad! Helluva way to start a Monday morning. Anyhow, independent of laws, my sentiments pmuch echo Mal's and Heidegger's, with the addition that you might wanna use the "Half-your-age Plus Seven" rule to get a bead on whether it's socially okay or not. Bear in mind the "Plus Seven" part can vary from country to country and culture to culture.

    Legally speaking, these sorta things are thorny problems. In essence it boils down to how much faith a society vests in people whose minds aren't fully developed yet, but given the pandemonium that would occur if people weren't allowed to bang each other till their early twenties, it's hard to imagine an ideal solution.

    I think you'll be okay, Cresca-kun. Just make sure to stay on the right side of the law. :3
  • Ahegaliant 01-22-2018, 05:00 PM
    Keep in mind people are drastically different from who they were when they were younger.
  • floattube 01-22-2018, 08:56 PM
    Gonna have to repeat what @Lokorfi said, I would be uncomfortable around you.
  • FukuchiChiisaia 01-28-2018, 09:11 PM
    Here's my situation. I love her. I want to protect, comfort, cherish, and support her.

    It means I won't touch her until I marry with her.

    @Ahegaliant Yup. She already changed a lot.

    @GlassMoon It's on ongoing discussion on government. But old law is totally vague that 45 years old man can forced 13 years old girl to marry with.

    @Heidegger I just want to hug her. Lewd her in her current age means I don't love her, that shitty thing only can happen on couples without true love.
  • Ahegaliant 01-28-2018, 10:19 PM
    Legality does not mean something is right or wrong. Whatever decision the government arrives at, should it be used as a crutch for your stance, your belief/argument is weak. Love is love, it's precious and true for those who believe it. It's also a fleeting, fragile, hopeful chemical reaction than can be had with anyone. You've stated your intentions are as pure as they can be in this situation, which is morally correct (to us), but also an inhibition to your relationship. What about others her age? Some problems and insights cannot be shared with others because they either won't understand or appreciate it. Someone her age could end your relationship with her, and she'd move on happily. If your love is real, and it feels like a dream, why? Why you? Can't comeone else love her? What did you do? Can she make that decision? If she meets her "soulmate" (or at least an upgrade over you), would you let go? Are you making this decision clear-headed and with the hope that if it doesn't work out, you can move on? Because, if this girl is it and you're clinging onto her, you cannot be trusted to make the best decision.

    Of course, I support your decision as a couple, and treat her well if it works out that way. But you should look at everything negative and be able to make a confident decision.
  • Violets 01-29-2018, 08:35 AM
    I guess it reaaaaaaaaaally just depends ultimately, but I'd probably feel a little too weird about committing all the way, so I'm just gonna go with no
  • dickcliffordtw 02-18-2018, 04:16 AM
    (01-22-2018, 05:06 AM)FukuchiChiisaia Wrote: In your opinion, is date or marriage with underage acceptable?

    I am fallen in love with 15 years old girl.
    Some people around me just "ah that's okay" while others be like "oh shit, are you pedo?"

    Also, if you see kind of me in reality, what will you do?

    need careful and privacy

    Sent from my SM-P555Y using Tapatalk
  • gtswaifuism 04-04-2018, 06:47 AM
    Considering your age, I don't see the problem (unless it's a law problem)

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